One of the most common questions people ask when considering a Lasting Power of Attorney is “Who should I appoint?”

It’s an important question. But perhaps not quite the right one. A better question might be:

“Who will still be the right person if they need to make decisions for me ten years from now?”

When we appoint an attorney, we’re not choosing someone to help us while everything is going well. We’re choosing someone who may one day have to make difficult decisions during what could be one of the most challenging periods of our lives.

The obvious choice is often a husband, wife, son or daughter, and for many families, that is absolutely the right decision. But being close to someone and being well placed to act as their attorney are not always the same thing.

Life changes. People move away. Health changes. Relationships evolve. Financial circumstances become more complicated.

The person who seems the obvious choice today may be juggling a demanding career, young children or caring responsibilities of their own when the time comes. That doesn’t make them the wrong choice. It simply reminds us that appointing an attorney is about more than trust.

It’s about availability, resilience, judgement, communication and a willingness to carry significant responsibility over what may be many years.

For some families, appointing more than one attorney works well. For others, combining a trusted family member with independent professional support provides reassurance for everyone involved.

There is no single right answer. Every family is different.

The important thing is not simply asking “Who do I trust?”

But also:

“Who will be best placed to carry out my wishes when I can no longer explain them myself?”

That question is often the beginning of much better conversations.

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